The Truth: Yours, Mines and Reality’s


Right and wrong aren’t always as black and white as we were taught when we were young. In fact, dare I say, the truth is an extremely complicated construct. I have had a debate or two (or a hundred) thus far in my life and I have come to learn a couple of things: (1) just because we are listening to each other does not mean that we are understanding each other, (2) yelling the loudest does not further validate your point, and (3) it isn’t realistic to think that we know it all. Are you still with me? Great! Now we can talk a little more about the truth.

The truth is often divided into three parts: your truth, my truth and the actual truth. This division of truth is brought to you courtesy of a little something called perception. Perception, or the way in which we process information, is how we start to create our personal sense of reality. As to be expected, the realities we have created for ourselves don’t always align with the next person’s views of reality. This is why all relationships are said to be hard work. There are romantic relationships, family relationships, friendships, relationships at work; there’s no escaping relationships so there’s no time like the present to learn how to deal with them. So what’s a good place to start? The truth! Yes, the truth. It’s the medicine you may hate to taste but the remedy you need to get better.

Couple arguing

In a relationship how do you decide who’s truth is more aligned with the universal truth? I’ve mostly seen people resort to the game of chicken; arguing their point until someone finally gives up from exhaustion and frustration. Many relationships have suffered from using this method–trying to force others to agree with their perception of reality.


Have any of your relationships been strained because you just can’t see “eye to eye”? Would you like to reduce the arguments and increase the harmony? Start with these three tips:

1. Be open to the idea that there are more ways than one to perceive the truth.
2. Avoid making assumptions.
3. Consider other people’s view point and be flexible when discerning the truth.

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